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Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit
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Possible Direct ControlStaying on the Playing Field
© 2011 by Will Joel Friedman,
Ph.D. All Rights Reserved Worldwide.
Have you ever wondered what possible control you have in this world? It is invaluable to recognize what you can and cannot directly control, change or affect. To effectively score on offense or defend on defense in the game of life, it does take knowing the boundary lines, thus "the playing field" of the game. To be off the playing field means that you simply don't contribute to the game, but remain on the sidelines of life. To stay on the playing field means you have the opportunity to contribute to the game of life. The former is called existing, the latter living. To what extent you exercise your option of taking the control you have is wholly up to you, it's your apparent choice!
Here IS what is on the playing field that is possible to directly change, control or effect:
Here is what IS NOT on the playing field and not possible to directly change, control or effect:
Recognize there are only two ways to wander off this playing field:
In either case you can immediately bring yourself back onto the playing field.
What possible control over you do you have? It is invaluable to recognize what control you have over yourself. To what extent you exercise your option of taking control of yourself and not letting anyone have control "over you?" It is wholly up to you.
Anything, anyone and any situation you can face, greet, meet and welcome has no control over you. Anything, anyone and any situation you are unable to face, greet, meet and welcome has control over you. Wherever, whoever and whatever you cannot be with "what is" has no control over you. Wherever, whoever and whatever you cannot be with "what is" has control over you. A tactic revealed is a tactic defused.
© Copyright 2013 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D.
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